Tony Porter: A Call To Men
"Tony is the original visionary and co-founder behind A CALL TO MEN: The National Association of Men and Women Committed to Ending Violence Against Women. He is the author of "Well Meaning Men...Breaking Out of the Man Box - Ending Violence Against Women" and the visionary for the book, NFL Dads Dedicated to Daughters.
Tony's message of accountability is welcome and supported by many grassroots and established organizations. He’s currently working with numerous domestic and sexual violence programs, the National Football League, the National Basketball Association, colleges and universities around the country. He has worked with the United States Military Academy at West Point and the United States Naval Academy at Annapolis.
Tony is an international lecturer for the U.S. State Department having worked in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, United Kingdom and Brazil. In addition, he has been a guest presenter for the United Nations' Commission on the Status of Women and has been a script consultant for Law & Order: Special Victims Unit." - (x)
this is so important.
i was talking to a guy and he said “if there were no laws you could be raped at any point of the day” and i replied with “yeah and i could retaliate by stabbing the rapist, hey i mean there are no laws” and he said “rape isn’t that bad, stabbing someone is a little over dramatic” wtf.
PAINT YOUR NAILS WITH HIS BLOOD.
Jesus was a homeless Palestinian anarchist who held protests at oppressive churches, advocated for universal health care and redistribution of wealth, before being arrested for terrorism, tortured and executed for crimes against the state, now go ahead and explain to me why he’d vote conservative. I’ll wait.
i’m sorry that’s just the best sentence i’ve ever read
Canon Jesus is so much cooler than American Jesus.
More fun facts about ancient Celtic marriage laws: There were no laws against interclass or interracial marriage, no laws against open homosexual relationships (although they weren’t considered ‘marriages’ since the definition of a marriage was ‘couple with child’), no requirement for women to take their husband’s names or give up their property, but comedians couldn’t get married
Asked by Anonymous
I enjoy the feeling of shaved legs too. I shave mine usually, and I prefer them to be smooth on an aesthetic level.
But I am also able to look at that preference of mine and see how it was formed. I am able to look at why I think the way I do, what led me there, and i’m not afraid of doing so.
It’s important to point out the fact that society is very cruel and judgemental to women that don’t choose to shave. On the days that I’ve gone out having not shaved my legs for a while, I have not only felt uncomfortable from internalised beauty standards brought on by society and the media, but I’ve also had people make comments (family members, not strangers, thank goodness! nobody was quite that rude although I got some odd looks) and really shatter my confidence.
Would we really be shaving off our leg hair if we’d never been sold the idea in the first place? I don’t think we would on the whole. Some people would probably have decided to do so by choice, but they’d probably be in the minority. You’d probably be in this group because it sounds like you just really dislike short hairs in general, not that your issue is around beauty standards and norms. The post was about the pressure on women and girls to make their ‘choice’, not about people that just hate short hairs. I think that if we were honest, the majority of women would admit that they either shave out of social pressure, or feel uncomfortable going out in public with hairy legs because of the way other people can react to it. Which is unpleasant for even the most strong-willed of us.
Lots of us have grown to love shaving our legs. That’s true. But it’s not something that I think you could argue came naturally to us. It’s not a natural impulse we are born with, is it? Men hardly ever feel the need to do the same.
I think it’s really important that we don’t label every choice a woman makes a ‘feminist choice’. I support the right of women to do whatever they like with their bodies (so long as they’re not hurting anyone, of course), but I don’t think it does anyone any favours when we suddenly act like the almighty social pressure we have bearing down on us from all sides magically isn’t there and doesn’t affect us.
It’s like make up. I choose to wear make up because I love it. I really do enjoy putting on my make up and trying out different styles.
But at the same time, I also acknowledge that I am affected by beauty norms and social pressure. I try to be confident without my make up, but to be completely honest, I’m not. I wish I was, but it’s a process. You don’t just become a feminist and suddenly become immune to that sort of overwhelming social pressure.
Some people do shave for themselves, absolutely. But like the post said, let’s not pretend there’s no social pressure there, because there absolutely is.
We can’t hope to get rid of this pressure on women and girls if being a ‘strong’ woman and a feminist means ignoring it. Ignoring a problem, as we know, seldom provides a solution to it.
your bra strap is showing please hide it because it is suggestive. also your boobs are producing lumps in your shirt please hide them. your butt is in the same situation please get rid of it. also your legs. your arms. your face.
I can see your feet and it’s very distracting and slightly arousing.
Here’s an Otocolobus manul — nature’s Grumpy Cat — discovering a camera trap outside it’s den. Camera traps are used by biologists to lean about rare animals’ behavior, abundance, and health — just by setting up a solar-powered camera with a motion trigger. No physical trapping necessary.
O. manul (also known as Pallas’s cat) is about the size of a house cat, but you’ll notice has round pupils instead of slits. It lives in western China and the steppes of Central Asia.
You’d think that Pallas’s cat would rule the internet by now - but there aren’t too many photos of them because they are both rare and shy. The IUCN lists them as near-threatened. Just another reason to support species conservation!
the other day we were discussing dating and this one dude was like “I don’t see the big deal why can’t people just ask people out without all the fuss” and another guy was like “well you get nervous and you get butterflies in your stomach ya know” and the first dude looked the other dude straight in the eye and said “DIGEST THEM.”